Three Powerful women and their Dressing !!

   All of us want to dress up as it gives a good feeling to be dressed up. There is a saying in tamil which says ‘Aal paadhi aadai paadhi’ which means the personality of a person is half and the other half which completes is dress. Ancient Tamils were aware of the psychological fact that the first seven seconds of meeting person influences the impression about a person. Hence they advised to dress accordingly so as to get a good first impression. I want to bring up three women in this blog whom I like for the work they have done in their respective field and their dressing.

Sushma swaraj: Sushma swaraj mam passed away in 2019 and when I came to know the news it was bit disturbing but as such I neither follow politics nor politicians at that time. Few days passed and something in my mind kept pricking thinking about her. Then I realized when I was in US I must have followed her on how active she was on social media with Indian Diaspora in order to bring back the deceased bodies back to hometown for the family to pay last respects. Best karma you could ever inherit is to do any help to the family when they have lost a person. She being the External affairs minister which is considered a very coveted role in the ministry had to fight against all odds – leaders, politics, ego clashes, opponent parties, logistics, religious sentiments of general public etc., Mam has always been very friendly and extremely efficient  and has been a great light of hope for the NRI public. No wonder she was tagged as India’s most loved foreign minister. I think somewhere in my mind I had great respect for her without my conscience. The way she carried herself especially amongst the global leaders was remarkable and she remained grounded as far as her dressing. She always has kumkum almost as big as a one rupee coin which is considered as a crime amongst teenage girls, always dressed up in Sari no matter whether she meets foreign delegates at home or her official visits to any part of the world.

Nirmala seetharaman: I consider myself very lucky to have witnessed her speech live in one of the events in Chennai. Being the Finance Minister there is a security protocol in place for her and much to the surprise of the organizers she came in advance and was taken to a private room for meet & greet with organizers; I was wandering around the hallway in ITC grand chola and saw her centimetres away and was awestruck to see her calm and composed demeanour.  I have to admit that my knowledge in Economics is very poor but have been following her ever since she took over as FM of India. Just to let you know she had Commerce ministry followed by Defence and now Finance ministry for the world’s biggest democratic country.  Obviously she got the post due to Arun Jaitley not able to resume due to health reasons but you cannot hide the fact she was a deserving and an eligible candidate for the post. Her portfolio is receiving lot of flak right now and sure will pull things together for a better tomorrow. With UPA’s 10 years rule there were far too many things to fix rather than to build economy and with implementations like Demonetisation and GST it was tough going for India Inc and business in general. Now with Covid, Indian economy is limping and it will be litmus test for her Ministry. But overall if you have some Economics background and a person following her speeches, media interviews etc., you will start to appreciate the person more. Now coming back to her dressing – I bet her sarees do not cost more than INR 2000 and you may need a binocular to see whether she wears any jewellery.

Sudha Murthy: She needs no introduction and I get a feeling of seeing a lady next door when I see her in media. I regret not reading her latest books but have enjoyed thoroughly reading her books in the past. Her stories are superlative of simple and it used to give a nostalgic feeling; moreover her writing is more content driven rather than trying to prove one’s proficiency in English language. I think her stories had an influence on me and it was around that time I started blog site. Being a Gold medallist she had so many options to pursue her career but she chose Philanthropy as her full time job. Through the Infosys foundation she has built thousands of houses in flood affected areas; helped in areas of Healthcare, education, empowerment of women, public hygiene for the poor and downtrodden. She has promoted literature by setting up thousands of libraries, helped setting up thousands of toilets for rural public and she has founded several orphanages. Her list of social work is endless and if you see her interviews you tend to get a feeling as if your own mom is speaking. She always has grey hair, absolutely no makeup and she will give you a feeling of exactly how a south Indian middle class woman looks. 

Now you might wonder what is the connection between personalities and their dressing. Well all I wanted to convey is dressing has got nothing to do with our personality. Purnima backyaraj actually a yesteryear actress but she is better known in Tamilnadu as a leading Blouse manufacturer for celebrities and believe her turnover would contribute .001 % to India's GDP; Every time during Diwali season Tamil nadu witnesses Heroes in the form of Tailors and women almost worship them. Michael Kors handbag, Revlon Nail polish define the style quotient and people's confidence level drops in a public gathering if they miss out on some of their style components ....Obviously people may say if I can come up with three great personalities with modest dressing then they can come up with hundreds of great personalities with sleek dressing sense; I am not here to complain about dressing but beyond dressing people should admire your character, nature and appreciate for who you are.

 

 

 

 

Misunderstanding explained through a Batch Job !!

   I think root cause for most of the problems happen due to misunderstanding between two parties – whether it is between two individuals, organizations, or countries.  Why do you think two co-sisters cannot get along well whereas two sisters fight but still end up being in good terms? Simple reason is people are not ready to understand each other when they hold the title of a ‘Co sister’ whereas people have the tenacity to bury the differences after a misunderstanding in an amicable way when they hold the title of a ‘Sister’. People also confuse Miscommunication with Misunderstanding – if Misunderstanding is termed as ‘Nonveg’ then miscommunication is a mere ‘Chicken’ as Misunderstanding is a broader term. Now I would like to explain misunderstanding through an example which happens often in India. 

  Consider party Mr.ABC as remitter and parties Mr.XYZ and MR.UVW are two beneficiaries; As part of settling bills Mr.ABC owes money to both parties Mr.XYZ and Mr.UVW; Assume Mr.ABC and Mr.XYZ are neighbors whereas Mr.ABC and Mr.UVW belong to same community. NEFT (National Electronic Funds Transfer) is a common mode of payment used by people to transfer funds. Once NEFT is initiated few steps happen in the background like remitting bank preparing a Structured Financial messaging solution (SFMS) message and sending it to service center, service center forwarding same to National clearing cell, RBI ; RBI at the clearing center sorts the transactions bank wise and prepare accounting entries, bank-wise messages are then transmitted to respective banks and finally receiving bank process the remittance message received from RBI and effect the credit to the beneficiary account. Usually each bank has a batch job at set time intervals like 9am, 11am, 12pm, 1pm, 3pm and 5pm to process these transactions. Imagine at 11.15 am Mr.ABC has sent INR 42000 to party Mr.XYZ and at 11.50 am sent INR 55000 to party Mr.UVW; Now when Mr.ABC sent money to Mr.XYZ he must have sent a confirmation message informing the same and Mr.XYZ instead of keeping quiet he wants to act smart by informing party Mr.UVW; Mr.UVW is pissed off hearing this and thinks Mr.ABC is being partial to neighbors; Much to his delight at 12.05 pm Mr.UVW got money into his account too and he informs the same to Mr.XYZ; Now it is the turn of Mr.XYZ to get pissed off with Mr.ABC since he feels Mr.ABC is partial to people from his own community even though he has got his money credited into his account pretty much at the same time. But we all know that the batch job which happened at 12pm took care of both the transactions at the same time. But people do not ‘Understand’ what went in the background and started spreading hatred, now you see through a simple example of how enmity is spread in modern world? 

  People believe Ego is the biggest threat to human relationship but according to me misunderstanding is the root cause of everything; Even for the simplest of all reasons like if a person hasn’t turned up for our invite we immediately misunderstand him and in turn do the same rather than trying to ‘understand’ the reason for the person’s absence. Our understanding with charity is if we make a poor child educate then that will eradicate poverty completely for his family, but have we tried to ‘understand’ health and environment are bigger threats and that needs much more help than ever before? Education is key to success, but my understanding is Health and creating a good environment for future generation is as important as providing Education. Overall, personally I feel there is lack of ‘understanding’ on lots of aspects even amongst the literate society and hope we take measures to understand things before a decision is made.